You know people mean well, but as another Valentine’s Day without a date passes, or we attend yet another wedding without a plus one, singleness can feel more like a burden and less like a gift.

Is it really possible to be single and happy when we dream of that special relationship?

We’ll find out together! We’re exploring three practical ways to embrace the single life with peace and confidence during the wait.

Like every season, singleness comes with its own special gifts. It’s a chance to experience unique moments that are different from what those in a romantic relationship might enjoy.
One valuable gift of a season of singleness is having “undivided devotion.” (1 Corinthians 7:35)

Singleness means being able to focus on Jesus “without distraction.” It also has the advantage of being able to devote more time to spend with God while experiencing fewer distractions from good, but competing desires, such as the disruptions of a spouse and children. It can also be a time to focus on friends, hit the next level on the job, take up new volunteer opportunities, or take an adventure and move to new cities.

There’s a certain freedom and flexibility in the single life since there’s no “I need to check with my spouse” moments or scrambling to find a babysitter before responding to invitations or events. There’s also the availability to change things up often whereas marriage and parenthood benefit more from consistency, stability, and a clear routine.

Remember, no relationship status is better than the other. Each season is unique and beautiful in its own way.

“I’m never going to find someone.”

“I won’t be happy until I’m in a relationship.”

“There must be something wrong with me.”

We all have days during singleness when it feels tempting to give up on hoping for that right partner or even start to blame ourselves after periods of living the single-life. Each season of our lives holds a significant and a meaningful purpose. We can find happiness in our singleness when we remember that God is still good and sees the entire situation better than we can when we’re in the middle of it. There is nothing wrong with the desire for marriage or romantic relationships, but keep in mind that singleness isn’t a problem to be solved.

On this journey forward, we can take advantage of the joys of singleness, and to do that we make a shift in our perspective and foster deeper connections that transcend the boundaries of romantic partnerships.

Then we replace those lies and negative thoughts with the truth!

Just because we think it, doesn’t make it true. To truly find contentment with our current situation, it’s important to capture negative thoughts (2 Corinthians 10:5), identify the lie, and replace the lie with the Truth from God’s Word.

• God’s love for us is endless, and He showers us with fresh mercies every day (Lamentations 3:22–23).

• God doesn’t hold back His goodness (Psalms 84:11). In fact, He’s a caring Father who gives us perfect gifts (Matthew 7:11).

• Contentment is obtainable because we can do anything through Christ’s strength (Philippians 4:12-13).

God doesn’t look at us differently based on if we’re married or single; He remains faithful, always. Our most important and strongest relationship is with Jesus, our forever Groom (Revelation 19:6–9). So, when those negative thoughts pop up, call them out. Then, we can counter them with the truth of what God says about us.

God never intended for us to live this life alone, but having a romantic partner isn’t the only way to experience meaningful relationships. Strong connections are formed in all types of relationships. Stay in touch with family and friends, join a small group community, volunteer to help others, and learn from other single people and from married people.

Whether single or not, we have the opportunity to surround ourselves with people who bring joy, support, and fulfillment to our lives.

If you’re looking to get connected into a life-giving community, we’d love to have you join us at Faith Church. We have Connect Groups for all people in every stage of life. These Groups are designed to meet weekly, in person or online, to create inspiration and allow for engaging conversations in a casual and relaxing environment. It’s the best opportunity for everyone to be a part of a great community no matter where in the world you are.

At the end of the day, while connections are extremely important and valuable, our contentment is not dependent upon another person. Singleness has its fair share of joy and opportunities, and we can know that the investments we make in this season are worth it!